How To Connect With Other Writers - Day Job Optional - Writing Is Lonely

A career in writing sounds like an introvert’s dream, doesn’t it?

Spending long hours on your laptop, racking up word counts for clients around the world, enjoying the optionally-anonymous role of a ghostwriter or copywriter…

To some extent, it’s true that you can build a career in solitude. Of course, you can also go big league and get your byline all over the biggest media outlets. It’s up to you. But even if you’ve blissfully traded in you 9-5 life for the sweet solitude of writing, it pays to connect with other writers.

The chance to talk shop, share ideas, exchange feedback, and make connections with those experiencing similar challenges can evoke feelings of motivation and validation.

By connecting with other writers, you can encounter new ideas, discover fresh approaches to problems, and get some much-needed accountability.

Also, I probably don’t have to tell you this, but being a writer isn’t easy! Sometimes it really sucks, and it helps to know you’re not the only one enduring the ups and downs of this career path.

Thankfully, it’s easier than it has ever to find writer friends, thanks to the internet. Here are some of my favorite ways to find ’em.

Facebook Groups

Let’s start with an easy one. With a few clicks, this method can set you up with an entire online family of writer friends. Facebook groups are all the rage right now, and the number of groups that writers haunt is astounding.

Of course, DJO has our own little group where we do challenges, have daily themes, share our work, and more.

If you’re not already a member, join us!

Writing Retreats

Writing retreats are a great way to disconnect from the rest of the world and reconnect with other writers. Whether you organize a small retreat with friends or join a larger retreat, these events often combine travel, workshops, and focused writing sessions.

Hit up google and be sure to narrow your search with locations or genres of writing you’re interested in.

Also, exciting news! We’re launching DJO writing retreats soon—click through to jump on the mailing list and get the details as soon as they’re available.

Writing Challenges

One of our favorite things to do in the Wi-Fi Writers Club Facebook group? You guessed it: writing challenges!

We do a 5-day challenge working toward a specific writing goal (unique to each member), where we have prizes, mindset training, and other special surprises.

Be sure to join and get ready for our next challenge, but in the meantime, you can have your own. Link up with a fellow writer—or three—online and ask them to do a Word Sprint with you.

You can make major progress on a project and then share work after an edit session for feedback.

Host a Writer’s Brunch

There’s something irresistible about connecting with writers while sipping mimosas over sizzling shakshuka. Real tlak: my mouth is already watering.

Imagine talking for hours about everything you’ve been reading/writing while enjoying a beautiful daytime feast.

Yes, I speak of brunch. And if you have room or a favorite restaurant, host one!

You can create a Facebook event or to get a group of writers together for a delicious, inspiring afternoon.

If it goes well, you might even want to do it regularly and welcome to new writers to the table.

Start a Blog

This might sound like it’s still skirting the lines of solitude, but I can tell you first-hand that starting a blog is one of the most amazing ways to meet people.

Writing blog posts for my own and other brands’ blogs opened up more doors for me than any traditional networking could have—especially right after school.

From meeting other bloggers at events to connecting with brands and niche experts, my network exploded in a very short time.

I also developed friendships with other bloggers and readers who left comments or re-shared my content on social.

Local Meetup Groups has an epic amount of writing meetups listed for you to browse.

Why not see what’s happening in your neighborhood?

Plus, their recent ads on the subways in NYC actually reignited my interest in them as a platform, so I’ll be right there with you, clicking through potential tête-à-têtes.

Just be sure to use common sense when going to meetups when you won’t know anyone there. Yes, I know—I sound like your parent. But seriously!

Join a Mastermind

A “mastermind” might sound a little bit intimidating, but if you’re serious about your writing goals, don’t shouldn’t let it phase you.

A mastermind is usually an intimate group of hand-selected people who decide to gather regularly to discuss work and give constructive, thoughtful feedback.

A good mastermind will contain people whose opinions you value, and members that have an active interest in the success of the other members.

If you can’t find one, go ahead and start your own!


Which of these ways of connecting with other writers appeal to you? Try some out! You could be a few clicks away from meeting new writer BFFs.

Want to hang with other writers like you? Join us in our Facebook group, Wi-Fi Writers Club

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Michelle Christina Larsen is the Co-founder of Day Job Optional. Strong coffee, strong wi-fi, and absurd inside jokes are some of her favorite things. While a self-proclaimed side project addict, writing remains the ultimate focus of her life. After a decade of freelance writing in the fashion industry, she's teaching fellow freelancers how to dominate their niches and make full-time incomes online.

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